On her own blog, Ordinarybutloud and her faithful readers are discussing the issue of secrets between spouses. And I am reminded that in my first mystery, Who is Killing Doah’s Deer?, Officer Sububie explained this all to Cassie O’Malley.
“Ms. O’Malley, if there’s one thing I’ve learned in my line of work, it’s that everybody and I mean everybody’s got a secret vice. Everybody’s got something they’re so ashamed of that they hide it from their family and friends. They can’t give it up, but they won’t admit to it either so they end up leading a double life. For some it’s drugs, or booze, maybe it’s a gambling problem. For a lot of people it’s sex, of one kind or another, and they think it’s sick, only they like it too much to stop. But the truth is, for most people it’s really pretty tame. Fast food. Chocolate chip cookies. Bubblegum pop. Boy bands. Pee Wee’s Playhouse. But they think they’d die of the embarrassment, if someone found out, so they hide it. I know a man, a vegetarian, but he’d get a craving for McDonald’s. He’d sneak out at night, and it was so important that his wife not find out, he let her believe he was having an affair. Almost cost him his marriage. Anything was better than being exposed as an eater of Big Macs. You’d be amazed how many people have the extraordinary bad luck to die under circumstances that reveal their secret life.”